September 23, 2017

How To Be Resilient

It’s so easy to get caught up in that thing called “Life”.  The never  ending needs of the family and home, hectic schedules at the office, health issues, the economy and so on.   We often fall into the cycle and think in our minds “Wow, is this really what its all about, day in day out?”  Without, faith, hope and God it very likely could be.  The power of positive thinking can truly be the answer to better mental and physical health.  Pass on some of these points to family, friends and coworkers at the office.  You will find that they will help to become resilient to adversity and obstacles that may come your way:

Think Happy – It’s very important to be optimistic, almost to the point of being opportunistic. For this, you need to be in tune with your thinking. Some of us have this little voice that tells us we’re going to do badly, that things aren’t going to go as well as we’d hoped. You need to recognize when it’s negative or nonconstructive and turn it around so it’s more positive.

Chill Out – You need to be able to anticipate what exactly will cause you negative stress. Take action to deal with those stressful situations. If you have too much work to do, do something to distract yourself, like taking a walk or exercising.Or deal with it by breaking down the problem into bite size chunks. If you feel as if you’re dealing with some aspects of the problem, you’re more likely to feel less stressed.

Take Control – You need to be individually accountable. Are you a victim of circumstance or are you someone who thinks, “What can I do about this?” If something goes wrong you need to take control. In the office workplace, the people who are really coping – especially in this economy, – are optimists and those who take control of their own destiny.

A Helping Hand – People who are more introverted and who tend to bottle things up will struggle on alone. If you can recognize a network of people around you, such as friends and family, you may help yourself become more resilient. Use their advice. Take on board their positive feedback, as a lot of people brush off compliments and fix on negative feedback. Understand why these people love you, rate you, respect you. It’s important to help build your self-esteem, which in turn makes you more resilient.

Have a Sense of Proportion – It’s easy to say and more difficult to do, but try to be a little more relaxed about things. Your resilience changes over time; it’s not set hard and fast with your personality. If something takes you by surprise you need to be flexible to cope.

 

Source: Jane Clarke co-author of ‘Resilience: Bounce Back From Whatever Life Throws at You’, Shirley Platzer Stocks Optical Vision Resources.

Speak Your Mind

*